The Weekly Check-In: The Simple Ritual That Can Transform Your Relationship
If there’s one habit I wish every couple would adopt, it’s the weekly check-in meeting.
It doesn’t sound sexy. But what is sexy is feeling seen, feeling appreciated, and not letting resentment quietly build up until someone blows.
Most couples don’t fall apart because of one big betrayal. They drift. They disconnect. They stop tuning in.
The weekly check-in is a simple, powerful way to stay emotionally connected—to catch issues early and keep your relationship on solid ground.
Here’s how it works:
Set aside a dedicated time each week—20 minutes is enough. No phones. No distractions. Not while driving, not while multitasking. Sit down, face each other, make eye contact, and actually be present.
Use a few core questions to guide the conversation. There’s no need for a script, but these prompts can open up real connection:
What’s going well between us right now?
Is there anything we need to work through?
What do you need more of from me this week?
Is there anything I’ve done that hurt you or made you feel unseen?
How can I be a better partner to you right now?
Are you feeling appreciated?
The goal isn’t to fix everything in one sitting; it’s to build a rhythm of emotional maintenance. Show up and be honest. Make connection a regular habit.
A few quick tips to make it work:
Avoid scheduling it during or right after a conflict. This is a ritual, not a battleground.
Stay curious instead of defensive. This is about understanding each other, not assigning blame.
End on a good note. Appreciation, affection, or even just a moment of softness goes a long way.
The weekly check-in is like flossing your relationship. Skip it long enough, and your relationship starts to decay. Small issues start build under the surface and it becomes much more complicated to fix them.
In busy, emotionally demanding seasons, connection doesn’t happen on its own. Creating space for it is what keeps love alive.
Set a the time (I love Sunday evenings). Look each other in the eye and put those phones away.
This is one of the best investments in your relationships you can make. A check-in a week keeps the couples therapist away 😉